Boys, It's time to man up.
Dating is one of my pet peeves. It's an aimless, directionless, problem-filled, time-wasting, soul-sucking, stupid way to spend your time. Instead of dating, you need to be courting for a wife. And there is a serious difference between the two. And if you didn't know that, you do now, so there's no excuse. Man was meant to leave his home, and be joined to his wife. The two then become one, and move on with life. Not to casually hang out, have sex, and text into the wee hours of night. So here's the 5 reasons why dating is a scam:
5. It's Unproductive
Yes, dating is unproductive. Life is about movement and growth. And what is dating? A stagnant action that yields nothing. It's like a pool of water that just sits. And what happens when water sits? it becomes festered with mosquitos and algae. That's dating. If you're looking for someone to go out to eat with, or watch a movie with, or go to a ball game with. Call a buddy. That's what friends are for. There's no purpose being single, and doing that with the opposite sex.
4. It's a Time Waster
Huge time waster. All that hanging out, texting, Facebooking, and all that stuff is just a waste of your time. Where is it getting you? Nowhere fast. You're not moving forward, or progressing in your life in any way. You're just entertaining the dopamine in your brain. So don't let the time go by, because you can't buy it back.
3. People Get Hurt
This is a huge one. When people connect while dating and break up, it's painful. We're not designed to "play house". People dating act like it's serious, but don't take it serious. That's when they get hurt. So instead of "dating" for 2 years, and breaking up because of something stupid. Try courting for marriage instead. It takes a lot of pressure off, and after a few conversations, if it's not working out, move on. But if you're not serious about marriage and family, you have no business talking to the opposite sex in any romantic way anyway.
2. It's Directionless
Oh yes! People date and kind of meander around with life. They casually hang out, kiss, have sex, play house, but all the while they're completely directionless with their life. There's no intentionality to life, or their relationship. They're just kind of floating along. Committed, but always leaving an out at the same time. So get you stuff together, and either go look for a wife, or hang out with your buddies. But don't date.
1. It Opens the Door to Problems
Dating is a slippery slope. In our society, isn't there something like the 3-Date rule? where at the 3rd date you have sex? How stupid is that? You're opening the door for STD's, surprise babies, a physical and chemical connection to someone you're not married too. Why? because you opened the door for it. So don't play into that. Get serious about your life, and your future wife's life as well. And have a little respect for her. Women deserve better than a 3rd date lay, and a 5th date break up.
I'm not joking about this. I, like many of you was a product of the world. I casually dated, and in the end, all I got was a bunch of bad memories, and pain from the whole thing. Not to mention hurting other people along the way. Dating is destructive to you and her. So don't do it. Either court for a wife, or if you're not ready, keep working towards your mission that God has for you, and doing the right thing. But what you don't want is a hurt woman, a weekend custody agreement, and huge child support bill. And you really don't want a shot of penicillin in butt cheek to cure that VD.